You’re in the supermarket. Your child drops to the floor, screaming because the cereal box is the wrong color. You feel every eye on you. Your instinct? Make it stop. Fast.

But here’s the truth: tantrums aren’t manipulation. They’re communication.

At MKandM, we see tantrums as windows into a child’s internal world — moments where emotions are too big to hold and too complex to express. And with the right mindset and tools, we can turn those explosive moments into opportunities for growth, empathy, and connection.

1. What a Tantrum Really Is
A tantrum is a nervous system in distress, not bad behavior.
For young children, especially under 7, their emotional brain (the limbic system) often overrides their logical brain (the prefrontal cortex). That means reasoning with a screaming child doesn’t usually work… but co-regulation does.
🟡 Tip: Before responding, pause and remember: “They’re not giving me a hard time. They’re having a hard time.”

2. Regulate Before You Educate
In the heat of a meltdown, logic is offline. That’s why saying “Calm down!” rarely works.
🟡 Try this instead:
– Sit nearby, offer calm presence.
– Mirror their breathing slowly.
– Say: “I see you’re upset. I’m right here when you’re ready.”
🟡 Support tool: Our Calm Down Cards offer visual techniques like blowing bubbles, counting backward, or imagining a safe space — practices that work best when modeled before the next storm.

3. Prepare for Big Emotions in Advance
Tantrum prevention starts in calm moments. Regularly practicing emotional regulation tools makes them familiar when your child needs them most.
🟡 Use Calm Down Cards daily, not just during meltdowns. Set a “calm practice” time each day, even for 5 minutes, to explore techniques like:
– “Pretend to blow bubbles”
– “Squeeze and release”
Over time, kids begin to reach for these tools on their own.

4. Help Them Make Meaning After
Once the storm has passed, then you can connect the dots.
🟡 Try:
– “Wow, that was a big feeling. Want to show me what it was with your Feelings Cards?”
– “Next time, do you want to try one of the calm cards together?”
This builds emotional literacy and resilience — they learn that they’re not “bad” for having emotions, and that they can navigate them.

5. Model What You Want to Teach
Children regulate through co-regulation. When you stay grounded, you’re not just surviving a tantrum — you’re showing your child how to handle one.
🟡 You might say: “Even when you’re upset, I stay with you. You’re safe.”

Tantrums aren’t about control — they’re about connection.
And when we respond with calm, curiosity, and compassion, we teach our children something powerful: that big emotions are okay, and that they don’t have to face them alone.

🟡 Explore MKandM’s Calm Down Cards and Feelings Cards

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